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In other to learn how to let go of your ex, you, first of all, have to understand the true meaning of the word “ex”.
There’s this obvious answer: an ex is someone with whom a person was once associated, in a relationship or marriage.
Here’s the real meaning: An ex I would say is one of your previous significant others whom you’ve had a relation-shit, and coincidentally, a break up with. In most cases, not someone you ever want to see again, in very very rare cases, someone you might still talk to and consider a friend because you both have a history and too many experiences to forget about together and are both mature enough to push any emotions you have left (if any), aside.
When it comes to self-improvement, letting go of your ex is a crucial aspect.
The course of your life is determined by your story.
You can learn to let go of your ex by adjusting your story about what it means to you once you recognize how important tales are. The tactics listed below can help you figure out how to let go of your ex.
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1. Love
Learn to love your ex.
Though it may sound strange but that is the only way to let go of the past.
Forgiveness is a way to stop feeling angry with someone who has wronged or upset you. It is also a way to stop feeling angry with yourself.
Loving and forgiving your ex, is the only way you can also forgive yourself.
Cherish the fun times you had with your ex.
Forgiving your ex doesn’t necessarily mean you should try fixing the problem you guys had. But setting he/she free in your heart and learning to love, acknowledging that he/she is now a thing of the past, and our past experiences is part of what makes us great in life.
Keeping grudges taunts us emotionally, causing us to always blame ourselves.
Forgive and love.
Extract profitable lessons from the past so you can be able to move on.
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2. Rework
Reworking the whole incidence is a bold step to take when letting go of your ex.
Making adjustments to your tale in order to better yourself is a fantastic method to get over your past difficulties.
It’s hard to pretend breakups don’t hurt, but accepting that it happened without tying a bunch of meaning to what happened is the next best scheme you can use.
It’s difficult to pretend that breakups aren’t painful, but recognizing that they happened without attaching a lot of meaning to them is the next best thing.
Breaking up with your ex isn’t a blanket allegation leveled at every member of that sex that you have to carry with you throughout the rest of your relationships. It was simply a misfortune.
Being traumatized as a result of your previous connection with your ex doesn’t indicate you’re not worthy of a happy and healthy relationship, or that the trauma was caused by a personality flaw you can’t change.
Rather than torturing yourself over your recent split, make space for yourself to move on in the future.
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3. Just Let Go
Admit the fact that you wasted years or decades in the wrong relationship.
You’ve spent years lying to yourself about who you are and how you so much messed things up with your ex. Instead of going for better opportunities, you hesitated out of fear.
Stop thinking about what your life would have been like if you’d made different decisions. You weren’t the one who did it. As a result, you’ve reached where you are now. Take proper care of it. Most likely, it’s for the best.
To let go of your ex, accept that he or she is no longer a part of your life and that no amount of wishful thinking will change circumstances or improve your current situation.
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4. Get busy
An idle mind is said to be the Devil’s workshop.
Staying idle after breaking up with someone you once had feelings for, gives your brain a go-ahead shot to start forging fantasies of reuniting with your ex.
But getting busy with work or, activities that will always keep your mind preoccupied, helps you get rid of the fantasies that are being forged in your head.
Idleness tends to keep you stuck in the past, making your life stagnant and preventing you from moving forward. However, distracting yourself with a variety of activities will help you stay away from your pain.
Distraction plays a vital role when it comes to letting go of the past.
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5. Second Chance
When a youngster drops an ice cream cone, the only method to quickly help that child overcome his or her unhappiness is to get that child another cone of ice cream, preferably with a different flavor.
It’s never easy to terminate a relationship; it might feel like the end of the world at times, but the most effective approach to let go is to give yourself a second chance.
Losing your ex doesn’t mean you’ve lost every chance to love again.
There are over 7 billion people in the world which over 3.90 billion of them are females and 3.97 billion of them males.
Take your time
Give yourself a second chance
Believe that you can yet find someone better than your ex, who will love you more than your former did.
Free up yourself and believe me when I say you will surely meet some wonderful people you never knew existed.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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